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Welcome! I’m Amanda Foust, a professional writer and certified life coach. I’m so glad you’re here! At Downs Ups & Teacups, I combine my writing and coaching professions — cultivating self-discovery through the use of storytelling. Relationships, collaboration, and the sharing of stories are life-giving. The tears cried, bubbling laughter, and genuine connection that occurs around the teacup is treasured. Life isn’t always glamorous, so it’s important to talk about the hard things–the downs– alongside the celebrations–the ups. Downs, Ups, & Teacups is a creative place to empower and encourage. Please engage and participate on this page! My hope is for this to be a community where we grow together and a place that provides a positive environment to come and stay awhile. You are welcome here!  

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Be A Storyteller And Change The World

Stories feed us. They long to be told but they also need an audience. We are all storytellers. It’s our way of making sense of experiences and passing what we’ve learned to others. History is full of storytellers. One of my favorites is Anne Lamott. She taught me about what it looks like to be completely authentic about the good and the bad in life — or in this case, the downs and the ups. Grace and faith flow through each page of Anne’s books, and I sip from each one — much like I do from authors Shauna Niequist, Cheryl Strayed, Elizabeth Gilbert, and several others! But, books aren’t the only place we can find or absorb stories. Sitting across from another soul and exchanging the parts of life that are longing to be told is a beautiful interactive experience. Parts of our journeys are exclusive to us, but by telling another, we could dramatically alter the direction of his/her life and possibly even heal a part of ours in the process. If we’re unsure about something, we listen to the stories of others and hope to learn something and grow. Most of the time, it’s stories that give us answers to life’s questions. Why? […]

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You Can Be The Mother You Never Knew You Could Be

Thankful for Modi from moodswingmama.com for sharing her story about what she has learned parenting two children with special needs. Enjoy! I remember when my world used to feel so small. Me, my husband, and our growing family up against the world. I think of the times when the little things used to bother me to the point of borderline insanity. I used to relish the fact that I had it all. Boy, I was stupid back then. Before you become a mother, you create this illusion in your mind of what life should be. The perfect life. You envision your kids becoming athletes and honor roll students, keeping those date nights regulated with the hubby and never having to worry about the heaviness you didn’t plan for. Then life happens. Things change. Warning: that life you dreamt for yourself isn’t going to go the way it did in your head. I think to myself of all the things I took for granted. All the things that I used to put so much energy into that make me shake with anger and clench my teeth just thinking about now. Why was I so selfish and petty? Why did I always […]

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Why I Stopped People Pleasing

I am a people pleaser to my core — straddling a hard line of being authentic and not making any waves among those I love or who I want to love me. Recently, I came to the realization that I do a great job truthfully representing who I am, but I am not honest about how I feel if I believe it will affect someone’s opinion of me. But here’s what I’m discovering: It’s okay for people to be wrong about me. In fact, if I’m only doing things because I don’t want there to be any negative feelings of me out there in the world (which is a huge burden to carry, am I right?) then the people I am pleasing are wrong about me. The kindness and generosity they think I represent is actually a misrepresentation due to my inability to say “no” or to allow negative opinions to surface. People pleasing is not showing kindness. If people are asking me to do something and I’m smiling saying “yes,”  but am resenting them on the inside for violating my time or “making me” feel used, then I am only saying “yes” because I care about their opinions or how I […]

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3 Ways To Take Care Of Yourself While Balancing Motherhood

While being a mom is one of the most wonderful things in the world, I am conscious of the fact that I don’t take care of myself and balance motherhood as well as I should. One thing that I consider difficult since becoming a mama is learning proper self-care. I began to wonder if there was any time to be a mom while looking after myself at the same time. Many moms make their children the priority in spite of their own wellbeing. The late night feeds with our newborns or early mornings with our toddlers or school age kiddos have an effect on our health, and we reach for the coffee and sugar to keep ourselves functioning. So what can moms do to give ourselves the morale boost we need during every exhausting day? 1. Exercise Exercising is a great mood booster, and the endorphins give you that much needed “feel good” feeling! Look, I know that it seems like a lot of effort to go to a class for an hour, especially when there is so much housework to be done, but you deserve time for yourself as well. Even if you’re pregnant, don’t forget there are lots of pregnancy […]

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What I’ve Learned From The Perspective Of A Child

One’s perspective is a powerful tool. Shifting mine to match the mind of a child has helped me find joy in situations that used to leave me feeling broken or defeated. Today, with my grandma and two little ones in tow, we visited the local library. Since my family recently moved back to my hometown, I have been eager to see the place I spent so much time as a kid. It was a nostalgic experience to watch my grandma who used to take me to a weekly story hour at this same library now chase my kids up and down the aisles of books. But while we were there, my son had a meltdown. Asking a two-year-old to pick up his toys to leave is basically equivalent to someone stealing all of a woman’s chocolate — a big deal! I tried to balance reasoning with him and enforcing my clean-up request all while nervous someone I knew would walk in and view me as an “out-of-control parent.” It’s a small town, so one wrong move can mean forever-labels. After what seemed like a long while going back and forth negotiating with my spirited little boy, I left feeling defeated and quite […]

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